[FooAnna]

why is it sooo fucking hard for a a guy to trust his girlfriend or friend that is a girl?

for example: the guy would rather believe something he heres about his gf or friend from someone he hates and believe that instead of actually talking to his gf or friend about it before he actually believes it

now i could understand if he believed an actual friend because most the time friends wouldnt lie about that stuff (most the time) but no instead he wants to believe some HE HATES over someone HE LOVES ok that makes a lot of sense (please catch my sarcasm)

cuz i know if i was to here so bullshit about my bf or friend id talk to them about it instead of straight up accusing them, id ask them if they did blah blah blah, and then tell them that blah blah blah said this and that about them

but for guys its different theyd rather believe wat blah blah blah said instead of asking the girl if its true or not, or they ask if its true or not and still believe the other person

[Captain Morgan]

No offense, but this is a pretty big generalization towards guys.

Some may react as you described, but certainly not all of them.

That said, i'm not sure exactly why some guys would trust the word of some random "associate" over their girlfriend. My best guess is because they have been lied to and burned in the past.

[Reasonable Addition]

Or because they're presenting projection.

Either way, trust is a nasty thing.
Funny how it most often then not entails the complete contrary of what it's said to define, be it man or women.

[Marcius]

Originally Posted by FooAnna

why is it sooo fucking hard for a a guy to trust his girlfriend or friend that is a girl?

for example: the guy would rather believe something he heres about his gf or friend from someone he hates and believe that instead of actually talking to his gf or friend about it before he actually believes it

now i could understand if he believed an actual friend because most the time friends wouldnt lie about that stuff (most the time) but no instead he wants to believe some HE HATES over someone HE LOVES ok that makes a lot of sense (please catch my sarcasm)

cuz i know if i was to here so bullshit about my bf or friend id talk to them about it instead of straight up accusing them, id ask them if they did blah blah blah, and then tell them that blah blah blah said this and that about them

but for guys its different theyd rather believe wat blah blah blah said instead of asking the girl if its true or not, or they ask if its true or not and still believe the other person

um your experiences with guys suck. if this is your current boyfriend, then know this: he comprises of massive quantities of failure and you need to get a newer, better one. Upgrades, maybe?

No offense, but this is a pretty big generalization towards guys.

funny thing is this chick right here's acting like the quintessential girl that dates buffoons/chauvinists. But not all girls are like that, now are they? Well, neither are all guys are like how you just described, FooAnna.

[Nazo]

Originally Posted by FooAnna

why is it sooo fucking hard for a a guy to trust his girlfriend or friend that is a girl?

for example: the guy would rather believe something he heres about his gf or friend from someone he hates and believe that instead of actually talking to his gf or friend about it before he actually believes it

now i could understand if he believed an actual friend because most the time friends wouldnt lie about that stuff (most the time) but no instead he wants to believe some HE HATES over someone HE LOVES ok that makes a lot of sense (please catch my sarcasm)

cuz i know if i was to here so bullshit about my bf or friend id talk to them about it instead of straight up accusing them, id ask them if they did blah blah blah, and then tell them that blah blah blah said this and that about them

but for guys its different theyd rather believe wat blah blah blah said instead of asking the girl if its true or not, or they ask if its true or not and still believe the other person

In all honestly, some guys would rather trust the word of a fellow guy friend then a girl. Why? Most of the time the guy has had a bad experience and thus, wants to get clarification from a guy friend, that he's probably known longer and trusts way more, then get advice from the girlfriend in question. It's a test. A guy test. Some guys will get a friend to talk to the girl, not knowing that it's for information. Then relays back to the guy. I've never done this myself, as I've not so good luck with girls, and I have no need with your sister. I just got that vibe that I can trust whatever she says, and I can hear it in her voice. So don't think I'll pull this off. Plus, I've only one guy friend I trust, and that's Roger Smith. Anyway: The point is that SOME, not all, guys trust guys more than girls, just as SOME, not all, girls trust girls more so than over guys.

Trust and respect are the two base factors in a relationship, in my opinion, and hopefully others. But, in all truth, it's hard as fuck to have for the person you're falling for, because you're afraid to get hurt, so you kinda look out for the person, and try to find hints, or spot signs. Then, over the times, if things have gotten great, the trust factor forms, and you just say 'fuck it' to the 'looking for signs or hints'.

Now, with your situation, he probably got the wrong impression, or, like someone I know, no one here, it's someone I know irl, but there's a slight chance he was spying on you. SLIGHT chance, I am NOT saying this is the case. I don't want to ruin what you may have with the guy, but somethings are always possible.

I hope I was helpful. :\